Moms are stressed—anyone surprised by this fact? Likely not. It’s pretty obvious that mothers have entirely too many responsibilities on their shoulders that cause them to be overly anxious all day, every day.
But some non-moms sometimes struggle with understanding just how difficult being a mother can be. It’s one of those things that you can’t fully understand until you’re in the position, and it’s draining you.
One mom, Sarah Buckley Friedberg, recently took to Facebook to talk about just how much pressure moms can face. The post was absurdly relatable to moms everywhere that it quickly went viral, racking up over 40,000 likes and over 7,000 shares.
She starts off discussing how working moms are expected to go back to work extremely quickly after growing and birthing a human. “Go back to work before you have finished healing or have had time to bond with your baby,” she wrote. “Keep your mind on work, and not your tiny, helpless baby who is being watched and cared for by someone other than you.”
Not stressful at all, right?
She then goes on to talk about the pressure behind breastfeeding. “Also breastfeed for at least a year. So take 2-3 pumping breaks a day at work, but don’t let it throw you off your game or let you lose your focus,” she wrote.
On top of it all, there’s also the stress of keeping in shape (e.g, losing all that weight you gained while pregnant). “Lose that baby weight and get back in shape, as quickly and as gracefully as possible,” Friedberg writes. “Make sure to get 8 hours of sleep a night so you can work out, work, and care for your family. But also get up at 5 am to workout, unless you want to do it after your kids go to bed when you also need to clean the house and get life ready for the next day and you know, sleep.”
We’re kind of exhausted (and anxious) reading this, TBH. And she isn’t even close to being done yet.
Friedberg goes on to discuss the pressures behind not only keeping the house clean, but keeping it “Pinterest worthy.” You have to remember birthdays, doctor’s appointments, and holidays. Speaking of holidays, you literally have to “be Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy,” she writes, in addition to “the birthday planner, the poop doula (seriously when will this end), the finder of lost things, the moderator of fights.”
There’s more! Remember your spouse? You have to remember that dating him, among everything else, is also important. There’s pressure to continue to be romantic on top of mom-ing and working full time. Oh, and friends. “Social time is SO important,” she writes. “Surely there is an hour or two left in the week after all of the working, appointments, exercising, cooking, scheduling, cleaning, imparting lifelong morals and learning on the kids, the usual.”
She has a lot more to say, but we’re too busy doing all of the things she’s talking about. Preach, Sarah!
Do you agree with Sarah’s thoughts on the stresses of being a mom? Which part do you relate to most?