First, we called her Rachel Zane as her character on Suits. Then, we called her Meghan Markle, the fiancée of Prince Harry, when she got engaged back in November. Now that she’s married, we refer to her as the Duchess of Sussex, wife to the Duke of Sussex.

That’s a pretty proper moniker in general, let alone for someone who might’ve known her longer than we have. And we don’t even really know Meghan personally; we just watch her on TV and admire and envy her royally wonderful life. (I mean, what?)

Anyway, the point is that Meghan Markle grew up in the Untied States as a regular human. She had no royal ties before Harry and wasn’t really famous most of her childhood— except for a few adorable commercials and her appearance on a 90s Nickelodeon show where she protested a sexist commercial, but still. It wasn’t until later in life she started acting, but her name was still the same even then.

What we’re getting at is, she must have friends who have known her long before her royal stardom and her marriage to Prince Harry. So we can’t help but wonder: How are those people feeling now that she’s a fancy Duchess? Is that what they’re supposed to refer to her as? Are they supposed to treat her any differently?

Think about it. Picture your childhood – or even teenaged – best friend that you grew up with. Maybe you played with Elmo dolls or popped each other’s pimples. Then they go on to marry a prince and you’re supposed to refer to them as a Duchess? It must feel super weird to these people who’ve known her a long time.

The good news is that Meghan totally understands why it would feel a bit strange for her longtime friends to start referring to her as some lavish title. After all, she says she’s still the same person she’s always been, no matter what her title may call her.

Meghan is adamant about how her buddies should refer to her as the same as they always have. She doesn’t want to pressure anyone to call her any sort of name at all just because she’s suddenly a royal.

One friend in particular, Daniel Martin, who was the makeup artist who did Meghan’s makeup for her wedding, is one of these people who has known her for over a decade. As he was applying her mascara on the big day in May, he casually brought up the elephant in the room and asked her if she should be bowing when she entered the room after her wedding. He of course didn’t want to disrespect her, but also thought that might feel a bit odd.

Meghan just laughed when he asked her this and said he had to do no such thing. She’s still the same person he’s known for 10 years, and will continue to be even after she was the Duchess. She also said he could keep calling her what he’s always called her—and so could everyone else.

So what do her friends call her now that she’s a Duchess? Find out in this video below!

What do you think of the idea of referring to someone you’ve known for a long time by anything else than what you’ve always called them? We think it’s so sweet that Meghan doesn’t care that her friends refer to her as the Duchess of Sussex!