When a couple is young and in love it’s easy to have a starry eyed vision of what the future will be like. It’s easy to think that marriage will be easy, but as any married couple will tell you, marriage takes work.

It seems that many Hollywood couples have trouble making their marriages work, so when we hear about a couple whose marriage has stood the test of time, we want to know more.

One couple who has has a very long-lasting marriage is Tom Hanks and wife of 31 years, Rita Wilson.

While this was the second marriage for Hanks, he definitely seemed to get it right the second time around. Here are 6 tips from Tom Hanks for a happy marriage.

  1. Marry the Right Person

    Hanks says, “My secret to a happy marriage is just being married to the right woman. I got lucky with the wonderful Rita Wilson. I’m the luckiest man alive.”

  2. Wait Until You’re 30

    Hanks says, “Don’t get married before you’re 30 years old.”

  3. Sacrifice for Each Other

    Hanks says, “I sacrificed something for my wife. Rita has Greek roots and they have the Orthodox faith. And I was a Catholic, so before getting married I converted my faith out of deep respect to her family.”

  4. Do Sweet Little Things

    Hanks says, “I often leave notes for her near the phone or somewhere in the kitchen. I wish her a good day and stuff like that. I type notes for her using the antique typewriters that I collect — I have more than a hundred. And also, I have a habit of sending a photo report of my day to Rita. I take pictures of everything around me when she is not with me: what I eat for lunch, who I meet, what I shoot. I think she likes it.”

  5. Love Each Other No Matter What

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    Happy Valentines Day @tomhanks “I know what Love is.” ❤️ PS That’s a fake cigarette.

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    Hanks says, “This woman loved me when I was thin and loved me when I was fat. She loved me bald and loved me with hair. This woman loves me, I know that. This is why I am a lucky man.”

  6. Support Each Other

    When Hanks won an Oscar for his role in the movie “Philadelphia,” he said, ” “I am here only because the woman I live my life with shows me what love is every day!”