To say that planning a wedding can be stressful is an understatement, as anyone who’s ever been involved in preparing for this special day can tell you. Sure, it’s one of the most fun, beautiful, and exciting days of your life, but boy is there an overwhelming amount of things to get done.

There’s the guest list, the outfits (i.e. picking out the perfect dress,) the venue, the food, the music, and of course, coming up with the funds to pay for all these traditional costs. And the list goes on and on and on.

But oftentimes, the stressful aspects of planning aren’t these “big” things, as you might expect — it’s actually the little details that can become tedious and be challenging to organize.

What is there going to be for light on the table? What would be a cute way to collect cards and gifts? In what order is everyone going to enter the venue?

These secondhand details aren’t what you immediately think about when you begin the planning process, but they almost always crop up along the way and create the most stress. Even when planning a small, non-traditional affair, many brides and grooms feel strongly that it’s the small details that make their wedding unique.

So, with all the minutiae that goes into a carefully planned event, here’s the million dollar question: do your guests actually CARE about all those little details you’ve pulled your hair out over? Worse, do they even notice?

Not according to Business Insider they don’t.

According to the article, there are some things that wedding guests just simply don’t observe. And, you guessed it, they’re those little details you had been admiring on Pinterest for months and spent hours trying to recreate.

Studies have found that what most wedding guests care about are two things: the food and the music. While you have the right to create any special details you want to make the day your own, the big things that affect your friends and family are what they eat and what’s keeping them entertained.

So, before you take out your life’s savings to buy handmade wedding toppers and $10,000 flowers, stop and think about what’s going to be in the spotlight on your wedding day.

Check out just a few of the stressful little details that your guests could care less about, then make sure to share any minutiae that you never usually notice at weddings.