Getting married can be one of the most exciting times in your life. Finally—you’re officially deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone you love. What could be better?

There are a few misconceptions about getting married, however. If it’s a man and a woman, some people assume that the woman is suddenly going to wear the pants and control everything the man does. Why else would we use phrases like “old ball and chain” to describe marriage?

Of course, in a happy marriage, decisions are fair and equal. And that’s why a lot of people are pretty offended over one couple’s choice of wedding cake topper.

In the popular “that’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, a photo of a dainty single-tiered wedding cake with rainbow sprinkles was shared. That would’ve been all fun and dandy had the wedding cake topper not caused a massive outrage.

The topper depicted the bride grabbing the groom by the collar of his shirt and dragging him away from watching a football game on TV. The groom has a remote control, a bag of Doritos and two cans of beer next to him, plus there’s a football near his feet.

That’s exactly how a husband and wife act in marriage should be, right?

Of course not. And even the poster agrees as it was not her cake topper.

“Posted by my old high school friend that attended someone else’s wedding…” the person rote.. “I love the [Philadelphia] Eagles as much as the next Philadelphian, but I hate this.”

Others agreed—the cake topper was super tacky.

“Save this photo for the divorce filings,” one wrote.

“I cannot stand this whole topper trend of brides pulling grooms away,” another person commented “Like why are you celebrating your wife dragging you from your hobbies…”

Now, a couple’s wedding cake topper is hardly an indication of what their marriage will likely turn out to be. But it doesn’t seem like a very happy marriage if this is the type of relationship you want to depict on your wedding day!

Case in point: Weddings should be happy and a celebration of love—not one person in the relationship forcing the other to do something they don’t want to do.

What do you think—are you a fan of this type of wedding cake topper? What do you think are the main traits that define a happy marriage?