Parent-child relationships are often categorized as being just as tough as they are wonderful–depending upon who you ask, of course. But, just because we might not always get along with our moms and our dads doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t try to get to know them on a deeper level. As a matter of fact, it might just be the secret that strengthens the relationship in the first place!

To help break the ice, we’ve compiled 9 of the most important questions you should ask your mom and dad. These are all designed to invoke precious, funny, potentially-awkward, and downright authentic conversations…

1. What were your dreams and ambitions as a child?

   It’s not often that people get the opportunity to explore their true passions in life. Perhaps your hobbies or professional accomplishments have fulfilled something for your mom or dad. Wouldn’t you like to know?

2. Did you feel like you were able to have an open, honest relationship with your own parents?

   This question could be the one that reveals to you the motivation behind your own mom and dad’s parenting.

3. What was the first movie that you saw in a movie theater?

   This is always a fun one to ask!

4. Growing up, who were your role models?

   Was it their own parents? A teacher or a special sports coach? This question is sure to bring back plenty of great memories!

5. Do you remember the days following my birth? What were they like for you?

   Every birth story comes with its own brand of drama, challenges, and love. Ever wonder what yours was like?

6. What’s the one piece of relationship advice that you wish you would have followed but never did?

   It can be a touchy subject, but when it comes to love, it’s always best to listen to those who have been there before you.

7. Are there any family traditions that you hold close?

   These are the very traditions that YOU will carry on one day!

8. If you could change the world, what would you do?

   Their answer might surprise you…

9. What should I know about your wishes, going into the future?

   It can be a tough subject to talk about, but every child must be aware of their aging parents’ care preferences as they head into their golden years. If you are open, honest, and patient, the conversations will go much more smoothly than you might think!

Before you go asking your mom or dad these questions, why don’t you see what one of these real-life conversations looks like? Watch BuzzFeed’s sweet video below. Spoiler alert: you’ll probably want to break out the tissues before you hit ‘play’!

We’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject! Which one is your favorite question? Do you plan on asking your parents any of these? Have you had a hard conversation with your mom or dad and, if so, has it strengthened your relationship?