Nowadays, many husbands and wives choose to work outside the home, but when children come along, they’re forced to choose between hiring a nanny, finding a daycare or staying home. If you’re a woman who has chosen to stay home with your young children, you know that this truly is a very difficult job.
Raising children isn’t easy (although, watching Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood might help), but it’s even harder if you have a husband who works long hours and doesn’t do his fair share to help with the kids when he is home.
Dale Partridge, an entrepreneur and bestselling author, recently posted on Facebook about how important it is for husbands to make sure they’re not the only ones who get to “rest.”
In his viral post, he says, “She spends all week serving me and the kids. I spend all week serving the bills. Most men think it’s a fair trade, but I doubt it.”
Truth. After all, a traditional work week is 40 hours, but the work week of a parent is 24/7. Even when the children are asleep, there are clothes to wash, birthday parties to plan and school lunches to pack. Stay-at-home moms don’t have coffee breaks and lunch breaks.
He goes on to say, “Husbands, we are no more entitled to a restful weekend than our wives. The badge of ‘breadwinner’ doesn’t authorize us to escape our home duties come Saturday and Sunday.”
Apparently, a lot of people can relate to Partridge’s post since it has over 70,000 shares and 113,000 likes. That’s a lot of moms who don’t get to rest on the weekend, and it’s not just stay-at-home moms who can relate.
One commenter said, “So many women work outside of the home AND do nearly all of the work at home. So glad to hear a man ‘get’ that their ‘free time’ is not for playing while their wives take care of everything else.”
Partridge continues, “The luxury of rest is a gift many men steal from their wives each weekend. Remember, the 40-hour work week is a cultural standard, but God tells us to share our wife’s burdens and protect her from strain.”
Cheers to that! In a 2-parent household, it’s only fair for both parents to have a chance to rest once in awhile. While it can be easy for moms to overlook their own needs, a wise husband will protect her from getting burnt out by encouraging her to have a girl’s night out, go get a massage, or take the kids to the park or the zoo for a few hours so she can take a nap in peace.
Partridge concludes by saying, “It’s okay to rest, God even commands it, just make sure you’re not the only one doing it.”
This works both ways. Whether the husband stays home with the kids while the wife works, the wife stays home with the kids while the husband works or both parents work outside the home, everyone needs time to rest.
What do you think of Partridge’s post? If you’re a stay-at-home mom, do you feel like you get the rest you need?