We know first-hand that planning a wedding can be stressful. We also know first-hand that living through a pandemic can be stressful. We can only imagine how stressful it must be to get engaged during the pandemic and then try to plan the perfect post-pandemic wedding.
One maid-of-honor turned to Reddit to explain that her friend, Joy, recently got engaged. She is very happy for her friend, but they recently had a disagreement that has left her wondering who is right and who is wrong.
The maid-of-honor, Joy, and their friends have all been vaccinated for COVID-19, so they decided to get together at a restaurant for the first time in a very long time. The maid-of-honor explains that it was a hot day and she decided to wear a dress she had worn many times before, a lightweight linen dress. The dress happened to be the color white.
She never thought anything about her outfit choice until after her meet up with Joy and their friends. It’s important to note that this get-together was not wedding related at all. It was just friends hanging out.
The maid-of-honor did notice that Joy was looking at her strangely at the restaurant, but she didn’t really think anything of it until afterwards when Joy sent her “angry texts” in which she expressed how furious she was for daring to “dull her shine.” The confused maid-of-honor asked what she meant, and Joy said she was upset at her for wearing white to the restaurant. Joy proceeded to call her names and say she was being unsupportive.
The maid-of-honor was shocked and admits that she kind of snapped. She told Joy that just because she is getting married does not give her “a monopoly on the color white and that while her wedding was the most important thing going on in her life, it was not the most important thing going on in other peoples lives.”
The maid-of-honor is mad at herself for snapping at Joy, but she really doesn’t think she did anything wrong by wearing white. Reddit seems to agree.
One Reddit user wrote, “I’m literally a bride, going to be married in 2 weeks. At my own bridal shower a bridesmaid wore an off white summer dress…she looked pretty. Your friend is being a bridezilla.”
Another comment reads, “So she expects for no one to be allowed to wear white around her until she gets married next year? I would buy a few white pieces just to spite her.”
Some Reddit users warn that Joy is already a bridezilla, and it’s only going to get worse. One comment says, “Not only a non-wedding related brunch, but one held a freaking YEAR in advance! Can you imagine the level of crazy the bride will be spewing in the last 30 days before her wedding?”
Other Reddit users think this maid-of-honor needs to walk away from the “honor” and let Joy find someone else to be her maid-of-honor. One person commented, “The only time you shouldn’t wear white is at the wedding/reception unless the bride requests it for the wedding/reception (and probably the rehearsal dinner). Any other event you’re free to wear what you want. If I were in your position I would back out of the MOH duties and just tell her that you’re unable to fulfill the requirements you think she’ll need. If she’s having a fit about something as trivial as this I would hate to see her reaction if she doesn’t get exactly what she wants for wedding related events.”
What’s the craziest request you’ve heard from a bridezilla? Do you think the maid-of-honor was out of line for wearing white to a casual non-wedding related lunch?