True love is the best feeling in the world, isn’t it? Well, until you find out that the love of your life is cheating on you. Or they have a boatload of credit card debt you never knew about. Or…any other terrible thing might cause you to break up.

Unfortunately, not all relationships last forever—especially when there’s a secret being kept in some capacity. In a recent Reddit thread, people sounded off about the top reasons they broke up with the person they thought they were going to marry. Here are a few:

  1. Cheating and Lying About it

    “She cheated on me. Multiple times. On her trip to Europe. Which she is still on. I saw the Facebook messages on the computer where she was still logged in. Then she lied when I called her on it. This all happened about 4 hours ago. I’m at a bit of a loss… I was planning our engagement. I’m glad it happened now I guess. Very rough though.”

  2. She’d Throw the Engagement Ring

    “Every time we fought she would throw her engagement ring somewhere, make me get it, then make me plead with her to put it back on. Even for very small disagreements and even in public. That was the final straw. It was very fucked up feeling begging somebody to be with me all the time. It gave he huge insecurity issues.”

  3. Hid Debt

    “Found credit card statement on the floor once, just before a family holiday. £thousands in debt that he’d never told me about. I’d been paying the rent entirely by myself in a job I hated and I was too young and naïve (23) to realize he wasn’t an honest man. That was it.”

  4. Had Feelings for Their Friend

    “She was in love with my best friend. And they were both in denial about it. They were engaged a month after we broke up.”

  5. They Had an Epiphany

    “She wanted to go to Florida for the Disney college program. (She is a huuuge Disney nerd.) She was too scared she would lose me. I convinced her to do it because if she didn’t, she would regret it forever and that no matter what happened I would still be here for her. 6 months and an engagement ring later she told me that while in Florida she realized she didn’t love me like she thought she had. The ring is in a box in the back of a drawer in my dresser. Her worst fear came true. So did mine.”

  6. Couldn’t Commit

    “I moved across the world for him. He kept telling me “one day I want to propose.” Or “I can’t wait for you to be my wife.” That proposal never came, and I was having visa issues, so after a few years I gave up and moved back.”

  7. Already Married

    “She was already married. We worked together at job you couldn’t wear rings. She hid it very well. I was the other guy. Found out when I proposed and had to tell me she’s married.”

  8. A Secret Life They Got Arrested For

    “FBI knocking at my door to arrest him for being a pedophile and a kiddy porn salesman. No joke.”

  9. Religion

    “After 4 years of relationship, her parents couldn’t come into terms with my religion and caste, they completely opposed our marriage, the girl couldn’t sacrifice her parents’ relationship and so she sacrificed me for them. Welcome to 21st century India.”

  10. Terrible With Money

    “Spent every dollar he came across on gaming & weed and constantly put off paying important bills. Would’ve dragged us both into bankruptcy if I would’ve stayed with him.”

  11. Wanted to Leave Town

    “I wanted to get out of the town we lived in…seriously everyone there just sits around and smokes weed, no one was going anywhere. So I left, moved states and I have never been happier! Went back 10 years later and everyone was still sitting around smoking weed and going nowhere. The only difference was they had their kids in that environment.”

  12. Too Jealous

    “After being together 6 years, were engaged, and then we had a child. He suddenly became jealous that he wasn’t the center of attention anymore. He didn’t even bring me and the baby home from the hospital. When I was sick and had to hold a crying baby and puking because he was out with friends and didn’t want to help me, that was the last straw. I left with my child and never looked back. He continues to live a pathetic life 15+ years later.”

  13. Different Priorities

    “I was in early 30s and he was in mid 20s, been friends foe years, dated for half a year, met his friends and families. I had high hope we would get closer and get married. He still wanted to enjoy life, I wanted to settle down. Our family opposed. And that’s it. The end of our friendship as well.”

Have you ever been in a situation like this before? Share your story!