Mom Wants to Know If She’s Wrong for ‘Walking Out’ On Lazy Husband and Kids for Two Days

Question: What would you do if you were an exhausted mother of two with a husband who barely manages to help at all? Would you ever just leave for a couple of days to get some time to yourself?

One tired stay-at-home mom took to Reddit to see if doing that was wrong—because that’s exactly what she decided to do after she completely had it.

A little background: This woman has a 2-year-old and a 4-month-old and a husband who works, what he refers to as, a “cupcake job,” aka a low-stress 9-5 job where he works from home. He jokes around with his coworkers. He takes vacation time often.

Sure, it’s great that he loves his job, but if it doesn’t take much out of him, the least he can do is help his busy wife out, right? The one who cooks, cleans, tends to the dog and kids, and does literally everything there is to do around the house.

The problem is, the husband doesn’t feel like he needs to help at all.

“I’m just tired. I’m so tired. And when I ask for help he just stares at me blankly until I go away,” the woman wrote in her Reddit post.

So one day, she completely snapped.

“The kids were crying, the dog sh*t on the rug (he’s a puppy), and he’s reading his tablet and tells me “babe it smells in here),” the woman wrote.

So…she left.

“I made sure that there was pumped breast milk and clean bottles, that dog food was out and the toddler had enough food for a few days and I just left,” she said.

No directions. No warning. No explanations. She just walked out and left her husband to deal with everything she deals with on a daily basis.

“I haven’t picked up the phone just to text him when they need to eat/bedtime schedule and I just realized that he has no idea how to keep the kids alive,” she said.

Meanwhile, she booked a stay at a hotel room for two days and relaxed hard. “I took a bath!” she wrote. ”I read a book and watched Netflix and honestly I don’t want to go back.”

Of course, she misses her kids, but she realized how much she doesn’t miss her husband. “His family is calling me nonstop telling me I’m a bad wife/mom and his mother is flying in from Florida since I’m ‘having some sort of breakdown.’” I don’t want her here but I don’t know what to do,” she wrote. “I’m just so tired.”

So what do the people of Reddit think?

Many people think she is actually having a breakdown—a justified breakdown, that is. And that she needs to talk with her husband. But many people also think that the husband isn’t pulling his weight during non-work hours, so her feelings are understandable.

What do you think of this woman’s actions? Would you ever just up and leave like this?