If you’re a parent, it can be a really exciting time when your children begin to get engaged and married. In fact, some parents save engagement rings for these moments, if they have one that’s a family heirloom. However, this isn’t always everyone’s cup of tea.

In a recent Reddit post, one mom explained that her son recently announced that he was getting engaged to his long-time girlfriend. Of course, she was thrilled! But instead of buying his fiancé a diamond to seal the deal, he had asked his mom if he could have hers. After all, he didn’t want to go into marriage being in debt.

The woman explained that her ring was not one she ever imagined passing down to her son. Her grandchildren, maybe—but it wasn’t an old ring that was ever passed down. It’s a special ring symbolizing her and her husband’s love, and she couldn’t imagine not being able to wear it just yet.

“I love my engagement ring. I have worn it every day since my husband proposed to me with it and to be honest, I still have plenty of years to live that I want to keep wearing it until I am old and grey,” she explained in the post. “Also, my ring is not a family heirloom. My husband chose and bought this ring for me many years ago. So, I told them that I appreciated them wanting my ring, but no, I wanted to keep it.”

She explained that she told her son and his girlfriend these reasons, and that one day maybe one of their kids could have it. But she wasn’t ready to part with it just yet.

Well, they didn’t take that information all too well. “Sam [my son] actually called me selfish and materialistic,” she said. “He said that diamonds are a scam and asked how I could let him go into debt to buy a new ring.”

At the end of the post, she asked the world of Reddit: Is she being a jerk, or is her son in the wrong?

Most people agreed: She was definitely NOT the jerk here—her son and future wife were being pretty unfair.

“It would be different if this were a family heirloom sitting in a jewelry box somewhere but it’s not. The self-entitlement is real here,” someone said. “The fact that they have been together for a while and ‘finally decided to get married’ tells me that he had time to save for a ring of her own. The audacity to ask for the ring off your hand blows my mind.”

“This is crazy, the cheek they had to even ask! I could understand if they were asking for grandma’s ring which you wore after she died or something but not your own engagement ring!” another appalled commentor wrote. “Rings become passed down after death in the family, not whilst people are still married and alive.”

“They are not entitled to the ring off of your finger,” another agreed. “Your husband gave that ring to you, and it’s important to you. It’s time for them to figure out their own preferences, etc.”

What do you think—who is the jerk in this situation?