Internet is Up in Arms After Mom Seeks Advice About Putting Her Nine-Month-Old Up for Adoption

Imagine being pregnant with your second child. Now imagine going through nine months of growing that human, giving birth to that human, and then raising that human for nine months, Then putting him up for adoption because you just couldn’t handle two kids.

Do you feel a sense of rage right now? Most people do after hearing about this scenario—the exact scenario that one woman put herself in.

This woman turned to Reddit to vent about the fact that she felt pressured into having a second child but now her marriage is becoming strained and none of her family is around to help and she doesn’t think she can handle it.

She explains that she and her husband were together for four years before she got pregnant with her first child and they had a very strong marriage and relationship. However they became pregnant again just eight months after her first child was born, which wasn’t in the plan.

“We weren’t ready for another child so we had a termination at 15 weeks,” she wrote. Because her family was anti-abortion, when they found out, they were not happy with her.

She began to feel guilty and completely regretted the decision. In fact, she felt so upset for disappointing her mother that she decided to try to have another baby. “The unreasonable part of me wanted to make it up to her, and the unreasonable course of action was to have another child,” she wrote.

She then goes on to say that she “expressed to [her] family that [they] weren’t ready to have another child but [they] figured it’d follow the old adage, ‘it takes a village,’ and [they’d] get ample help from [her] parents,] she wrote.

But she couldn’t have been more wrong. After her son was born, her family wasn’t present at all. In fact, they were even farther away than usual—“straight up moved away, closed their Facebooks, never spoke to use again,” the woman wrote—all punishment for having the abortion. No second child was going to make that up to them.

Without a support system, the woman and her husband found themselves wanting to put their son up for adoption.

“We now have a 2-and-a-half year old daughter and a 9-month-old son. My marriage is beginning to get strained,” she wrote. “We weren’t ready for a second child and honestly, I’m not sure we ever really wanted more than one.”

She thinks that this would pretty much sold all the issues in her life: Not only can he be “raised in a better household,” but “maybe our marriage would repair itself, our daughter can have a better undivided life, and we can continue on our original path of just having one child,” she wrote.

Naturally, the Internet blew up, telling this woman that she’s insane, that she needs help, that this would totally mess with the child and to think of him.

It sounds pretty crazy, huh? What do you think of this woman’s idea? What would you want to tell this woman if you could?