Husband Wants to Know If He’s the Jerk for Inviting His Family To Stay For a Week Right After His Wife Gives Birth
In the days immediately following giving birth, it’s hard to imagine doing anything on top of caring for a newborn—especially entertaining guests. You’re figuring out the ins and outs of a new tiny human, not to mention running on barely any sleep, feeding the baby every few hours, and likely not even having time to take a shower let alone cook dinner.
However, one husband decided that he was going to allow his family to stay at his house the week after his wife was going to give birth. On top of that, he didn’t consult with her about the plans—he just arranged them and told her after. And, when she was upset about it, he called her melodramatic and hormonal.
He vented about the situation in a recent Reddit post under the “Am I the A**hole?” subreddit group. He explained that they hadn’t gotten to celebrate Christmas with his family, who lives in a different state, so he decided to have them for a week after the baby was going to be there. He figured that way his family could meet the baby and also get that visit in and spend time together
When he did finally mention the plans to his wife, she freaked out. “I told her it was no big deal besides that we could use help if she thought about this way but she lashed out on me about how the first few days of the baby’s life is an essential time for bonding and being intimate and I just took that away from her by inviting my parents and invading her space,” the man said in his post.
“I argued that she was being melodramatic right then because my family are decent people and I’m pretty sure they’ll make this experience a lot more warmer but she still disagreed,” he continued.
The woman was not having that. In fact, she told him that he had to cancel those plans—there was no way she could handle that. “She went off on me demanding I call them and cancel everything I planned with them, but I thought that was unacceptable since she gave not a good-enough reason for me to do that and besides my parents can help but she still denied that being true,” the man said.
Women around the world were pretty unanimous about whether he was the jerk or not. Spoiler alert: They think he was.
“UNTIL YOU PUSH A HUMAN OUT OF YOUR BODY AND SUFFER THE PHYSICAL CONSEQUENCES OF IT YOU ABSOLUTELY DON’T GET TO MANSPLAIN THAT IT IS NO BIG DEAL AND NOT GOOD ENOUGH REASON,” someone wrote (read: screamed).
Many people shared this sentiment, and even shared personal experiences of their own: “I love my in-laws and I was adamant that they wait until our son was at least 6 weeks old before they stayed at our house for a visit. They were insanely helpful, making meals and entertaining our baby. I know they were hurt not to stay sooner (they did get to visit in the hospital when he was born), but I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle overnight guests before 6 weeks postpartum. Please reconsider your reaction to your wife, and please ask your family to manage their expectations,” someone wrote.
What do you think—would you want visitors right after giving birth? Who is the jerk in this situation?